Becoming friends then dating
"We can be friends with a lot of people with varying values, but it's totally different when you start dating them."There's a big reason for this: "Their values can easily become your values." If you have someone in your life who presses all of your buttons on important subjects, you might not want to get involved, even if you find yourself attracted to them.As Rogers puts it, "If you love being around someone but don't necessarily see eye to eye on things that are pretty important to you, it's best to stay friends.""If you’re dating someone who’s not your type or is incompatible, you’d normally recognize that fact and move on without hesitation," New-York-based relationship expert and author April Masini tells Bustle.
But then, one day, you realize that you're not sure you want to be romantic with them?If you aren't sitting around daydreaming about someone, you're likely not going to have a solid romance.Being in love is all about fantasy, especially at the beginning.Cecil Carter, CEO of the dating app Lov, tells Bustle,"If you don’t find yourself thinking about them, yet you enjoy their company," then you should probably stick to friendship.Like Safran, Carter points out the importance of visualization and imagination.