Dating a girl with bipolar disorder
You can still love someone who is bipolar and have a great relationship, but it requires flexibility and forgiveness.Sometimes I need to cancel plans with my GF last minute because I simply can't be around people for an afternoon.If you find out after dating for a while and you're emotionally invested, I wish you luck. Those things are much more difficult to manage long-term, so I see dating people with those illnesses as agreeing to be placed in harms way, regardless of how well they're managing.I've got a friend that manages her bipolar really well. Most people with mental illnesses are not harmful to others and there's a higher chance they will harm themselves, rather than others.Depressive episodes: mostly I just need to be left alone for a while, or to do low-energy things during dates - more staying in and watching movies than going out.I try really hard never to take out my depression on a partner." Every so often the issue will come up because it's part of a healthy relationship to be able to talk about your emotional problems, but there's a difference between making one person deal with all of your symptoms and allowing them to help/comfort you if they express a desire to do so.The relationship was filled with lies, manipulation, endless drama, she cheated on me repeatedly and then when I said I was leaving she threatened to kill herself and started cutting her wrists with a knife.Ended up just calling her mom, explained the situation and said "you better come home, im not dealing with this shit".
Never dated someone with bipolar but I have dated someone with boarderline personality disorder and it was a nightmare.But the bipolar person's partner will always have to do a bit more heavy lifting.The balance of emotional labor will never be 50/50 - its something that needs to be accepted going into the relationship. I have absolutely no patience for other Bipolar individuals who don't stick to a care plan or medications. For every "batshit crazy" unmedicated/unmanaged bipolar person there is a successful businessman or engineer who just happens to have another aspect of their health that they manage (it isn't easy, and it isn't normal, but that's not the point).I would think there would be a HUGE difference between someone getting the right medication/treatment for Bipolar, or those who have learned good coping skills, and those who are untreated or undiagnosed.I have OCD (fairly severe, when unmedicated), but thanks to therapy (years and years ago) and Prozac I can live completely normally.