Dating in philly
Sarah, 28, Rittenhouse: I recently finished “App-free August” in an attempt to focus on meeting people in everyday life.
It’s just as difficult as you’d imagine, as every else is on their phones!
I think meeting for coffee or drinks is a safe first date.
A good place to have conversation, but easy enough to cut short if it’s not going well.
I have had some fun dates from Tinder, but that is really all it is: someone interested in one date (and usually more, at least for that one night, yes I’m talking about acts like you’ll find on many other adult sites) and then never hearing from them again.
Melissa: The guy usually suggests going out, I usually vote for drinks for the first date. You can never go wrong with their spicy margaritas. Sometimes I do if I’m excited and sense shyness on the other side (or if I get impatient lol), but generally the guy does.
I think Independence Beer Garden, Morgans Pier, or Tria make for great first date spots!
No matter where you go on a first date, you want somewhere with an easy exit if necessary!
And I think it shows a lot of confidence in a female if they suggest the first date.
There was this guy I saw all the time in my work building (no, we didn’t work together! At first, we started saying hi to each other and after a while, we were having in depth conversations in the elevator.
Melissa, 26, Delaware County: In person & I’ve used a few apps. Tracy: Tinder – there is generally more immediacy on the app and when conversation gets going it flows pretty well. With only 24 hours to initiate conversation, I don’t get overwhelmed by matches sitting in my queue. I like it because it’s more “relationship-oriented” & so far, the guys I’ve talked to on there are pretty straightforward. However, while I love Bumble’s “Girl Power” mantra and can see the benefits from being able to make the first move, it’s kind of exhausting.
Tiffany: I’m part of the minority that doesn’t use dating apps. It was hilarious while it lasted, but nothing more than guys just looking for a one-night girl. They go on a ton of dates but it’s never turned into anything more than that. I wasn’t really into the guys that much, most guys just take it as a joke, and if they are serious about it then honestly a guy that’s all about a dating app isn’t the type of guy I want to do (I wouldn’t consider it the manliest hobby! In a world where it’s nearly impossible to meet a guy who is willing to go above and beyond or make an effort, this app does nothing to help that.