Gay dating pdf
In the past three decades, dating has become more of a process that can last for years before marriage is even considered.As generations change, so does the idea of dating and how one finds a companion.We aren't like gay men who shamelessly advertise incessant fabulous gay parties all over the Internet.
Dating used to consist of first dates that ended with marriage proposals, or families making marriage deals between their children.
Unless you want to be thrown into a haphazard mix of other lesbian newbies at a bi-monthly girl party at a massive nightclub, you have to to find out where the experienced lesbians gather. We don't like things that are too easily available, and the dating scene is no different.
Our culture is like a secret designer sample sale advertised only to an exclusive group of people "in the know." (Oh, but once you get inside, you discover it was worth waiting on that pesky long lesbian line).
Some lesbians liked to be tight-lipped (no pun intended) about the gay underworld. I see it like this: It's hard enough to be gay in this cruel, cold, heteronormative world.
We don't need to make it even harder on the young bloods by keeping our world so secretive. However, I don't recommend girlfriend-hunting at a straight bar in those fragile early days of your gayness.