Levels of a dating
Stage 2: Unsettled settling As Chris has noticed, the landscape has changed. This is not about fault or blame and more about, once again, chemistry – the oxytocin has dropped.
They immediately felt connected, the chemistry was hot, it was easy to see that he was a kind and considerate soul. While the first six months were great, it seems lately that things are beginning to slide.
Here is where partners begin to see patterns – that that crazy drunken night and intense argument wasn't a one-time event after all, or that your partner’s wanting to spend six days with her family at Christmas is part of a bigger pattern of pulling in relatives anytime she has more than two days off from work.
With all this can come the triggering of each person’s emotional wounds.
This is where commit-a-phobia sets in: One partner wants to move forward, the other may say slow down, give me more time.
The pink clouds of the first stage are fading; reality is rearing its head.