Love and dating in islam
I felt that our love started going in the direction, he agreed to this feeling, and respected my opinion.
He promised to marry me and asked me to wait for him as his circumstances are difficult.
I pray, Alhamdulillah, all obligatory and optional prayers, and pray qiyaam in the night as well; I fear I lose my good deeds because of what I am doing. When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) saw a young man merely looking at a young woman, he turned his head so as to make him look away, then he said: “I saw a young man and a young woman, and I did not trust the shaytaan not to tempt them.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (885) and classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi. Love has to do with the heart, and it may appear in a person’s heart for reasons known or unknown. Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: A person may hear that a woman is of good character and virtuous and knowledgeable, so he may want to marry her.
Hence you did well to cut off contact with this young man, and we hope that you will stop corresponding too, because correspondence is one of the greatest doors to corruption that have been opened for people nowadays. But if it is because of mixing or looking or haraam conversations, then it is also haraam. Or a woman may hear that a man is of good character and virtuous and knowledgeable and religiously committed, so she may want to marry him.
I do not remember that he called me more than once.
I asked him not to call me; because I feel this is wrong, although I love him.