My boyfriend have been dating 2 months
Don’t leave any daylight between exclusive and boyfriend. Sometimes, when women who are new at “sexclusivity” bring it up to their men, they say something like, “So I just want to make sure you’re not sleeping with anybody else right now.” The guy says, “Nope. A man isn’t boyfriend-worthy because you feel a real connection with him.
A man is boyfriend-worthy if he’s demonstrating that he’s serious about being in a relationship with you.
He still has his online dating profile up and checks it regularly (we met on the site).
I trust him and know that he is being honest, but now that we have slept with each other, it makes me feel vulnerable and nervous.
Just because you had a great date, just because you had electric chemistry, just because you were at his place until 3am does NOT mean he wants you as his girlfriend and does NOT mean you are long-term compatible. You do not commit to someone who has given no indication he’s committing to you.
It just means you have a serious crush with potential. That guy still needs to follow up regularly in order to prove himself worthy. Now if he’s been calling you every night, and seeing you 3 times a week for the past few weeks, then yes, you can take down your profile and focus your energies on exploring this burgeoning relationship.
He’s attentive (he texts and chats with me online every day), affectionate, asks me out regularly (we have seen each other multiple times every week since we met), and makes time for me (he has a lot of interests and activities).
Thus, you’re judging him not merely for your feelings towards him, but rather his consistent efforts to call you and see you over the course of a month. How many of those same men prove to do it over and over and over again for 4-6 weeks? An easier way to look at this is that you have MUCH more information about a person after, say, 7-8 dates than you do after 2-3 dates.
If he’s still a good guy who calls consistently, sees you consistently, and seems to want to be monogamous, then you should feel secure in giving him a shot, as opposed to doing what most of us do: hopping into bed first, “committing”, and realizing that we’ve made a terrible choice due to chemistry.
I am scared of getting hurt and us not being on the same page.
But, I am equally scared of pushing for something that is happening naturally and perhaps making him feel pressured and stressed about something that is easy and great, naturally. If I talk with him, how do I bring up being exclusive so that he doesn’t feel pressured?